They leave everything to housemaids or think that providing all the material needs at home is enough. In truth, a man’s duty is not just to make a woman pregnant and then step aside waiting for the baby to be born. That’s not how it should be. As a man with responsibilities towards your family, it’s essential to understand that the well-being of your pregnant wife—and the unborn child—should also be your concern.
Yes, you can’t carry the baby for her or directly lighten her burden, but there’s a lot you can do to stay close and supportive. An article published in National Health Care in the UK explains how a husband should act during his wife’s pregnancy and how he can support and be present for her:
First, be aware of what to avoid during this time.
If you smoke or drink alcohol, it’s best to stop.
Cigarette smoke is especially harmful to a pregnant woman. Alcohol is equally dangerous. Even if you’re deeply attached to these habits, quitting them helps protect the health of both your wife and unborn child. Experts say if you’re addicted to smoking and can’t stop, it’s crucial to smoke far away from your pregnant wife and ensure she doesn’t come into contact with any smoke.
Be present.
A pregnant woman deeply needs someone by her side—to talk with, to feel cared for.
She often feels tired, fearful, or emotionally overwhelmed.
Make time to be with her, talk about your day, discuss the baby you’re expecting, and express how much you’re looking forward to the child’s arrival.
Understand her emotions.
Please avoid saying hurtful things.
People often joke that pregnant women are moody, and some even mockingly ask, “Are you pregnant?” when someone is irritable.
You, however, must understand that these mood swings are not her choice.
She might be laughing one minute and crying the next.
Be there when she needs you, comfort her, and show love.
Cravings and aversions are common in pregnancy. She may dislike certain foods and crave others—what is commonly called “pregnancy cravings.”
You should be prepared for this and show understanding.
More importantly, ensure she maintains a balanced diet.
Accompany her to medical checkups.
Doctors recommend that husbands accompany their wives to antenatal visits, but many men ignore this.
Being present allows you to receive advice together, understand how to help her, and makes her feel supported.
Keep learning about maternal health.
Pregnancy brings many changes, and the more you know, the better you can support her.
You can read books, articles, or trusted resources about pregnancy and maternal care.
Allow her to rest.
Especially in the early weeks, a pregnant woman’s body feels very tired.
Give her enough time to rest.
That doesn’t mean she can’t do anything—if she has light household duties or work that isn’t risky, she can continue if she feels well.
Continue to enjoy each other’s love.
This is a time when she especially needs to feel your affection.
Surprise her, say kind words, and express love in many ways.
Support her with physical activity.
Doctors recommend light exercise like walking.
If she doesn’t feel motivated to exercise alone, your presence and encouragement can make it easier and more enjoyable.
So, don’t be absent during your wife’s pregnancy.
She needs you more than ever.
Pregnancy is a nine-month journey she shouldn’t walk alone.
Your support will not only strengthen your family’s bond but also enhance the well-being of your unborn child.
